Tuesday, 22 August 2017

Being Receptive To Joy

There are times in life when you feel like you're on a downward spiral, whether it is a day, a week, a month or a year (Anyone else just start singing the Friends theme tune? Nope.. Just me?). It is very easy to get stuck in a rut, and for someone with anxiety, like me, it is extremely easy to fall into a negative mindset. I am currently in this mindset. I'm in quite a shitty period of my life, if you follow me on Twitter, you probably know why.. Despite trying to get out of this mindset, it is extremely difficult. 

Improving my anxiety is always at the forefront of my mind, and no matter how anxious I feel, I always try to remember how far I have come - which is a hell of a long way. There are various things I do to attempt to minimize my anxiety; talking to loved ones about how I feel, using apps such as Calm and Headspace, exercising etc etc. One thing that I find particularly useful is to focus on the little things that happen daily that often slip straight past us. One of my favourite bloggers, Melissa  Media Marmalade, recently wrote two incredible blog posts #1, #2 that really struck a cord with me, and completely inspired me to write this.

Taking just 10 minutes a day to reflect on the little things that have brought a smile to your face is such an easy way to lift your mood. No matter how low I feel, I know that I smile or laugh at least once a day. In the darkest of periods, those tiny moments of joy are perfect to cling onto. I usually reflect in the shower. For me, not only is this a practical use of my time, but it allows me to start my day in a positive manner. 

Everyone will have different elements of their life that they want to remember. Of course, I will forever treasure the monumental moments that have happened to me such as graduating from university, moving into my first flat, having awesome opportunities through my blog etc. For the average Jane like me, these monumental things don't happen every single day, this is why the little things will always be so important to me. I've pin pointed four of those little things that I hold extremely close to my heart, that make me realise that life is worth living, no matter how testing it can be. 

Watching The Sunrise or Sunset

If you know me well, you will know that I absolutely love watching the sunrise/sunset. The amount of times I have dragged people with me to watch the sunset at the beach is unbelievable. When I lived in Cardiff Bay, I was lucky enough to be able to see the sunrise every morning from my balcony. It was beautiful and some of the sunrises I have seen have been incredible. However, for me nothing will compare to sitting at the beach, sea air blustering through your hair, waves crashing against the rocks and the sun creating a gorgeous cocktail of colour across the sky. It is one of my favourite things to do and makes me feel extremely lucky that I have gorgeous beaches right on my doorstep. 

Laughing Until My Stomach Hurts

Is there anything better than being in an uncontrollable laughing fit with your best friend? Now, this is something that usually happens when I'm with James. We were having a conversation the other day, saying how when we see each other we are always guaranteed a laugh, and this is so true. There have been countless moments between myself and James, where we have been gasping for air, clutching our stomachs and had tears streaming down our face, now although this sounds painful, it will forever be something that brings me joy. There are so many moments that have caused uncontrollable laughter, that no matter how down I am feeling, I can think of and it will immediately set me off again. 

Singing Along to My Favourite Songs In The Car

Now I am the first one to say it, I am bloody awful at singing. However, my car is metaphorically my stage. No matter if I'm with someone or alone, I will crank my music up and sing my heart out. I have a very varied taste in music, literally anything goes, so what I'm listening to very much depends on my mood that day. Driving along with my music on, singing along to every word, and playing all the air instruments possible, (honestly, I am a one woman band), brings me so much joy, and something that makes any journey that little bit easier. 

Taking Time Out of the Day to Read Blog Posts

One of the reasons that I started blogging in the first place was because I was constantly inspired when reading posts. I absolutely love reading posts, whether someone is showing off their gorgeous new outfit, reviewing the latest makeup or a raw personal post. There is such diversity in the blogosphere, that you're never left without something to read. Believe it or not, blogging is bloody hard work. It isn't just about receiving the occasional free product, you have to have an idea, write the post, take the photos, edit the photos, schedule endless social media posts, alongside sticking to a routine in order to keep your audience engaged. It can be very easy to slip behind on actually reading other peoples blogs. Something I have recently found joy in, is taking an hour or two out a week to sit, read and comment on blog posts I love. Not only is it inspiring for my next post, but it's bloody great to see so many bloggers doing so well!! 

Top - River Island 
Skirt - Primark (Similar here)
Shoes - Converse 
Watch - Cluse 

It is extremely important to be receptive to joy in times of darkness, and for me focusing on the little things is the perfect way to do this! I'd love to know what your little things are!


  1. Love this post! There is a running joke in my family that I was Hitler in a past life with all the bad luck I get, but I always try and remain positive and its definitely helped get me through some rough times. Being mindful of the little things that bring joy helps get the most out of each day! I hope things turn around for you soon!

    Abi xo | www.wanderlustdaydreaming.co.uk

    1. Thank you Abi! I know exactly how you feel like, the little things definitely help me get through the day! Thank you babe xx

  2. We talk maybe once a week, maybe once a month or sometimes every day. Be it a quick hello or DaaaaaaaaaaaaD can you help me, like last night when you phoned me while I was out shopping asking for help as your toilet wasn't working, (that did get me a few strange looks as I explained to you what to do). I remind you every time P.M.A. Positive Mental Attitude. You have come a very long way and overcome plenty of obstacles, sometimes you will get knocked off the road you are travelling, so after having a cry, dust yourself down and pick another road. Just remember life is like driving a car from Bristol to Pembroke if you followed the Motorway you would become board very quickly, but grab a motorcycle and enjoy all the twists and turns of the A roads and be happy. So life is what you make it, never be afraid to ask for help or advice. This shows you are strong.

    Yesterday is History, Learn from it.
    Today is Present, Except it for what it is.
    Tomorrow is a Mystery, You don't know what you will get.


    1. You give the best advice ever Dad! Thank you for being my number 1 supporter and my rock. Love you more than you can ever imagine xx

  3. Absolutely loved this post and it was the perfect reminder that I needed today! We definitely need a sunrise trip to Ogmore too! x


    1. Thank you babe! Oh my goodness, yes that is a fab idea x

  4. Sometimes it is nice to write down how you feel and what makes you feel better.

    I definitely think exercising helps, especially Pilates, and singing along to music is a good one for me too! (I can't sing either haha!) Life will always have it's ups and downs and it is up to us how we deal with it and I believe you can't just switch off feeling anxious or depressed, you have to work to keep it at bay, one day at a time.

    I always say to myself after having a bad day or week that I've had my time feeling low now, lets get back up to our happy place again and I do all the things that make me happy!

    This was a nice post to read, thank you for sharing! xo

    Pinar | beautybakingbella.com

    1. I completely agree! It makes it so much easier to be grateful when its written down in black or white! That is such a good way to look at things. Thank you lovely, I'm really glad you enjoyed it xx

  5. you look great!


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  7. Lovely blog! x

  8. This was a lovely post. I can really relate. It's a constant thing to have to try and keep anxiety at bay and it's vital to not let it get you down (so much easier said than done). I love focusing on the little things in life which make each day special. Love your outfit too! X

    Amy - https://amyevans.co.uk

    1. Thank you so so much Amy, I really appreciate that. Focusing on the little things definitely helps makes darker times a lot easier x


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